Online Life
I used to spend a great deal of time online. In fact I met Master there13 years ago. After our relationship became a full time thing, I hardly spent time there at all, especially on IRC. The only chats I was really involved in was just messages with people I already knew. This is my rant, what can I say.
Recently, I have started to spend time on IRC again to talk to folks who are already good friends in face to face relationships. Coming back to IRC I was again faced with those people who don’t seem to have a clue what the heck they are doing when it comes to even basic manners. Since this is my site and so my world, and with Master’s encouragement I have decided to try and at least explain or even remind those of you using the web as a communication device, that you need to learn what to do there to have it be a good tool and to even achieve those relationships you came seeking.
The nickname…net people seem to think you have to run around with brackets around your name to show you are collared. Really it isn’t around your name it is around your top’s name, for example, (Sorcerer)anna. To me this just seems confusing; after all, my Master isn’t wearing the collar. I use Master’s anna. That pretty much says it all, I belong to Master, who the master is, I guess you can ask. Amazingly a great many people seem to think I am saying I am Master Anna. Don’t ask me…first recommendation is to freaking read the name, don’t just glance and make statements when you haven’t even taken the time to really pay attention.
My suggestion unless your top has some particular rule about it, use the name you wish, leaves it lower case and most people will assume you are a bottom. Then you can just answer the question about if there is a collar because they will ask with or without those silly brackets.
One other comment on nicknames…give me a break, I have seen so many nicks that just so turned me off, they may belong to great people but I will never know that because I am not going to talk to anyone with the name rapist, cock, or slut in it or part of it. Pretty much leave off any reference to sex of any kind. It shows a serious lack of imagination and bad taste. It isn’t a turn on except for people who are probably as damn silly as you are. And really if that is what you want you can still get it without just looking like a 16 year old teen looking for masturbation.
So you got the web, you want to find a woman or a man. That is nice, you won’t find them by asking how old they are, what sex they are, if they are collared. In fact most of the time you will make them roll their eyes and go, god another fool on the web. If you come into a channel and just announce to the world that you want to fuck someone, chances are there won’t be takers and those that are, really are probably not what you are shopping for.
If you want to sincerely find men or woman to connect with, you have to remember that these are people; they are not just names on a screen. They have lives, jobs, pets, friends and family. They have feelings. Most of them would like to make friends and perhaps more but you won’t find them be being a net slime who still thinks the web is just a place to get your jollys off. Go to a porn site for that, hell spend the money and the folks on camera but quit expecting real people to act like that for you.
In channel or in a private chat, talk as you would your face to face with friends, ask about their lives, what matters to them, what are their feelings? Start as what you really are, two strangers, don’t act like because someone identifies as dom or sub that they are your dom or sub. That dom wasn’t waiting around for you to come be this treasure for them. That sub wasn’t looking for you to answer all their lonely prayers. Get your ego out of it!
When Master and I met on the web, he made a smart ass remark, I made some remark back and he asked me privately why woman always say that? And so began our friendship. Yes, just friendship, we enjoyed talking to each other, we enjoyed sharing stories with each other. He was my friend that I found interesting and funny. It wasn’t till we met in person at a simple group dinner that we became more than friends and only because face to face we had chemistry. Even then for a long time we were just friends.
It doesn’t matter what you are looking for on the web, if you want a person of value in your life, you have to take the time to get them, as more than just some fantasy you have in your own head. They deserve that and really if you want more to happen in reality, you are a fool to not spend the time.
Don’t forget they are strangers, and if you decide to meet them it better be someplace that you can leave from. Stranger danger isn’t just for children.
Don’t forget as much as everyone would like to believe it is just adults out there, there are children too, would you want them running into a trolling net geek or to a responsible kind person who can talk about more than the size of their cocks, or how wet they are.
Another area is how to talk to a Dom or sub and keep it respectful? Good rule of thumb just be respectful to everyone and then you can’t mess that up can you? However there does seem to be one area where that is lack of respect that just annoys the hell out me on a personal level. My Master makes no secret that I am his slave, and has never had a conversation with any other sub where he didn’t make that clear that we are married 24/7 people. Yet to this day if we are both in a channel chatting to other folks, other subs will totally act as though I am not there, never have the good manners to even say hello to me. They speak to him all too often like I am not a part of his life, they ignore that I am even alive. If you want to be my Master’s friend, have the respect to acknowledge me, to show me the respect I deserve as his slave, his wife and the person who takes care of him everyday. That doesn’t mean you have to kiss my ass but don’t act like I am not there either. And really if you want to talk to me, you must plan on showing my Master respect as well.
No, you don’t need to ask permission; unless the sub tells you their dom has required this. But if you discover a dom or a sub has a significant other, a full time partner, treat them with the respect you would want your partner to have. Heck, since time is usually the hardest thing to come by, thank them for sharing time.
When you approach another person, remember this isn’t your dom or sub. They don’t owe you more than standard respect as they would have for a stranger on the street. You have to earn it if you want more. Don’t ware a title like means something to everyone around you, it doesn’t and it is again about ego and not reality. One of pet peeves, real time and on the web is when some dom who doesn’t know me at all, gets bent out of shape and says to me “That isn’t very submissive of you.” My response is always the same…”That is because I am not your submissive, only one person has the title of Master in my life and he earned it, works for it everyday, just as I work for mine of slave.” Face to face or on the web, don’t let the title you have taken or been given go to your head, you aren’t better than all the others out there, in fact the odds are pretty good you will be better than some and worse than others, but in either case nobody is interested in investing the time to help with your ego.
You can make some great life long friends on the web; you can make a love connection on the web. Of all the stories I have heard about success in either area, it never started with a private massage with does your Master spank you? Can I lick your toes? None of your damn business and no of course you can’t, you aren’t here you twit! Stop that foolishness. Be a person!